are times that I think I am...
...the only one
to have a particular experience or revelation, only to find that other
people are just as experienced or informed as I am. Or that I have
to do "it" first, so I can offer some service or guidance
to someone just about to experience it. I used to think this only
pertained to the bad stuff or the drama in life, but I am starting
to realize, recognize, and look for the examples of good things to
predominate my dramatic adventures.
I have been thinking
a lot about the beliefs that each one of us lives by. Whenever some
guru or self-help book says to think positively and believe in ourselves,
there is never any acknowledgment that we currently live what we believe.
So, what? Well, I am putting some of the pieces together and realize
that first I must discover and release the current belief before I
can accept a new one. I am always living my truth, whether it serves
me well or not, so when I am threatened with the idea that it is wrong,
I protect it and myself from anything that might disrupt or prove
What I have realized
is that I spend a lot of time and energy protecting lies--other peoples
Let me give you
some examples of how this looks in my life: when I am looking for
a parking space, (and for those of you who know what parking is like
in Chicago, this will seem BIG!) I KNOW that I will find one very
near where I want or need to be. This space will be free to cheap
and allow me enough time to get where I need to be on time (as long
as I am on time ;-). This is something I know, so when there is someone
in the car with me, I have to counter their belief that there is never
any decent parking and insist that the Parking Fairy always takes
care of me. Voila, we get "rock star" parking.
When I address other
beliefs that I want to direct my life, such as: I am good enough to
do this, I deserve to have a good relationship, or I am worth a lot
of money, it is not always so easy. The beliefs that counter these
thoughts are bred in the world in such an insidious way that we think
it is truth. We are taught to think about how others might look at
us or think about us and start to live for the approva of the omnipotent
"they." I no longer care what "they" think; I
live my life for me, and I am much happier for it.
With the help of
coaching, I started to address the hidden beliefs that were saying
I couldn't do and be who I wanted, and I realized that I was living
my truth; my truth was formed by my beliefs that were contrary to
the positive affirmations that I was telling myself.
I accept that when
I KNOW something to be my truth, like the "rock-star" parking,
it is my truth, and that is how I experience life. So it is up to
me to know what my beliefs are really saying and decide if that is
the kind of life I want to lead. As I seek to know myself in the truth
I want to be mine, I encourage you to see what you really believe
Is there enough
for you? Always!
Will the good times
Can I do it? If
you try, and try again!
Find your belief,
find your lie, and reframe your truth to be who you want to be--who
you KNOW you can be. Let me know what works for you, so I can share
it with others who are seeking, just as you and I are.
Now, tell me what you think.
out these past thoughts: